"Just photograph the kids, I look like crap today" is a common phrase I hear at my sessions.. and a common phrase I say myself! Then, last year, my daughter's teacher requested a photo of Mom with the student for a Mother's Day present and my heart sank when I realized I don't have any .. I mean, I have random fun selfies but not any great ones usable for a Mother's Day present from within the last year or two.
I don't know about you guys, but I feel like all too often I shy away from the camera but there will come a day where you are putting together your child's wedding slideshow, or they want to surprise you with a photo album, and you (or they depending on the situation) will notice there just aren't many photos of you - in some cases any photos! I'm thankful I had this revelation now instead of in the future.
I am here to plead with you to step into the photo! You don't have to post them anywhere, you don't have to feel like you look perfect.. but be present in photos. Your kids will love to look back on these moments and they will not be thinking about how messy your messy bun is or what a hot mess your make up is, they will be enjoying the memory of the moment the photo was taken.
As Allison Tate says it:
When I look at pictures of my own mother, I don’t look at cellulite or hair debacles. I just see her — her kind eyes, her open-mouthed, joyful smile, her familiar clothes. That’s the mother I remember. My mother’s body is the vessel that carries all the memories of my childhood. I always loved that her stomach was soft, her skin freckled, her fingers long. I didn’t care that she didn’t look like a model. She was my mama.
At all my sessions I encourage people to get in a few photos and promise not to post them. I also offer to do a Photoshop makeover on some favorites if a few self-criticisms are what's holding you back!
I hope it's something you will all consider. I know I am guilty of this myself, and we are all victims of our own thinking, but no one else is judging us the way that we judge ourselves, and our kiddos love us just as we are!
I thought I would share some photos from the past which all include Mom and/or Dad with their kids.. none of these moments would exist in file format if they had not wanted to be in the photos, and.. in my opinion anyway.. they are such special, beautiful moments.
And a few of my grandparents which I am so happy exist!
And here are a few of me with my family .. I felt insecure in almost every single one and am so happy to have them all.. it's usually worse in your head and even if it's not they are still so nice to have available.
I hope everyone feels encouraged to hand the camera to your SO or set a timer and get a few memories documented soon!